The Dreaded Announcement

I promised you not all of my posts would be about pregnancy, but I just feel like I have a lot to catch up on.  One thing I wanted to include in my blog was how we announced our news on FB.  I know most of us have anxiety when it comes to putting the news out there in such a big way.  The only people who knew before the FB update went up were my dad, brother, my dad's side of the family and a couple close friends who knew of our struggles.  I had also told my department at work that day and a few other people at work had found out.  One friend I sent a private text message to because she had been going through IVF and I wanted to reach out to her personally.  She appreciated it and I was glad to have told her that way.

Even though we kept our struggles private, I knew that once we finally had good news to share, I wanted to somehow mention that we had dealt with IF.  I didn't want to put it all out there, but just a subtle hint of what we had gone through.  So I really thought about how I wanted to announce it.  I found a video back in December that I fell in love with.  It was actually created for a reproductive center and I thought it was perfect for what I wanted to do. 

So my FB was simple.  "We believed...and are having a baby later this summer!"  And I posted this video.



I don't know how many people actually watched the video, but based on a few comments I got like, "the wait is so worth it", I think people did.

Once you deal with infertility, you can never go back.  It never goes away – it’s always a part of you.  I still can’t bring myself to say “I’m pregnant” out loud.  Now as some stragglers are hearing the news or asking what the congratulations are for, I find that my response is “we’re having a baby.”  I just don’t feel like I’m ‘one of them’ yet, and honestly I don’t know if I ever will.  The IF community is where I felt safe – you all are so warm and comforting and understand our struggles.  Now to be pregnant, it’s like the heartache never even happened to those that don’t know.  But…I’m embracing this new phase in our life and living one day at a time – so thankful that our time has arrived.  Our goal is to bring home a healthy baby, so we still have a long road ahead.